tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post3902325313388513062..comments2023-11-05T03:34:11.422-08:00Comments on Sew.What.: I'm having a rough time...Heavy stuff, please read if you really care.KMServinohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02420014853789391097noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-26617545200986235542011-01-20T12:24:14.378-08:002011-01-20T12:24:14.378-08:00Oh Kerri...I totally feel for you. I have experie...Oh Kerri...I totally feel for you. I have experienced mild to moderate depression over the past few years as well - and I know you just sometimes want to close yourself in and be sad. And that's OK. Like a lot of the other ladies said though, don't let it go on too long. When I was married to my first husband, we also lived with family (his family) and it totally sucked. I moved away from my family because he had a gambling problem, and said that if he lived near his family and friends that he wouldn't gamble anymore (which was a lie). I am glad that you are praying through this challenging time - I prayed for 2 years with my ex-husband, but just short of a nervous breakdown I did end up having to leave, for my own health and the well-being of the kids. I just want you to know that if you have to go down that road, or even just a separation, that you do not allow yourself to feel like a failure. I fought with myself for so long - that I didn't pray hard enough, or try hard enough - but the bottom line was that he was not willing to get help for his addiction. And you can not force someone to get help. All it will do is stress you out, and piss them off. They may get help for a little while - but it will be just to make you happy. As soon as things get back to semi-normal, they will stop going, or say there is nothing wrong anymore. And I totally know that unemployment can definitely strain relationships - my hubby now has gone through periods of unemployment over the past couple years, and it definitely makes things stressful. As far as the sex thing - with the desire fluctuating and being there and then being gone - that is totally normal...especially once you add children to the mix and getting up at odd hours of the night, etc. If your hubby will not get help for his paranoia, you will have some questions to ask yourself - are you willing to stick it out? what if things get worse? do you feel that it may endanger your son at some point? are there things you can do to try and make things better? I always go to prayer first, it is the strongest weapon we have - but that person also has to have the desire to change and make things better. If you ever need to talk, definitely let me know - I know we've never met in person, but I can understand what you're going through - and can be there to just listen, you know? We're connected on FB, so just email me and I can send you my number.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07129978746407449887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-11149888266985835052011-01-20T11:16:40.820-08:002011-01-20T11:16:40.820-08:00My uncle has this same kind of paranoia. He though...My uncle has this same kind of paranoia. He thought people were out to get him- he sealed his windows and doors, etc. I think my Aunt finally made him get help and he has been medicated now. Not sure what the diagnosis was, but TRY hard to get Kris some help. It might save you and your marriage.Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01443417929886430937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-39197584946926109302011-01-18T13:13:57.580-08:002011-01-18T13:13:57.580-08:00I wish I had some comforting words of wisdoms but ...I wish I had some comforting words of wisdoms but just know you are in our thoughts and prayers.Unpolished Parentinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05908084719146729086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-72586827168551366792011-01-18T09:51:23.030-08:002011-01-18T09:51:23.030-08:00Don't worry for a second about what people do ...Don't worry for a second about what people do or do not want to read. Don't apologize for what you write or how you are feeling. You are entitled to your emotions, you're going through a lot. If writing about it makes it any better than do that as much as you need to. I'm sorry that things are so hard right now. You and your family are in my thoughts.Michelle@DomesticationoftheSingleGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17875515103822677095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-81953413972018355502011-01-18T04:54:49.445-08:002011-01-18T04:54:49.445-08:00I'll be praying for you, and know that if you ...I'll be praying for you, and know that if you ever need someone to talk to about it, I'm always here for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-50771178014580564632011-01-17T21:38:56.359-08:002011-01-17T21:38:56.359-08:00So very sorry, bloggy friend! This all sounds incr...So very sorry, bloggy friend! This all sounds incredibly hard and my prayers are with you. Hugs and hugs and more hugs...Muser Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619098935024377476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-86419565123094039652011-01-17T11:38:43.543-08:002011-01-17T11:38:43.543-08:00I'm very sorry to read about what you and husb...I'm very sorry to read about what you and husband are going through. I hope you keep seeking the help you both need. Both my sister and step mom and doctors in psychology and from reading the comments about your husband I would definitely say he needs to get help. I know unemployment is beyond difficult and really puts stress on a relationship. Have you thought about one of you going to community college? I know it's much easier said than done but try to keep your head up and know that this is all temporary. In the meantime keep getting the help you need and I hope things start to get better soon!Noellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01069464994697972691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-48755205195388359162011-01-16T19:18:33.034-08:002011-01-16T19:18:33.034-08:00My heart goes out to you :( Know that no one has a...My heart goes out to you :( Know that no one has a perfect life, a perfect marriage or perfect children. And if they say they do, then they are not telling you the truth. We all have struggles. You need to address in some other way what Kris is going through. He needs help. I will say a prayer for you. You are allowed to have sad days...just try to make tomorrow a happier one :)Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08633343164367305564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-42898039137149783052011-01-16T18:34:05.552-08:002011-01-16T18:34:05.552-08:00I will say a prayer for you all.
Please keep talk...I will say a prayer for you all. <br />Please keep talking to people and if his fears and obbsessions continue keep seeking help. This sounds very scary to me. Hugs.Sar(Mrs.Teddy)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05897687803697025841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-6920724596386291542011-01-16T17:01:03.386-08:002011-01-16T17:01:03.386-08:00I don't have any words of wisdom for you, but ...I don't have any words of wisdom for you, but I will say a prayer for you tonight. ((hugs))Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05190236280134389968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5341276326381683717.post-35420899029846233752011-01-16T13:59:57.941-08:002011-01-16T13:59:57.941-08:00It must feel impossible, the spot you are in, but ...It must feel impossible, the spot you are in, but it's important to remember that every day you have had since conception was planned by God. Your path was laid before you were born and looking to Him for guidance will help open some doors (opportunities) and provide some answers for you, I just know it! BIG hug, you will be in my prayers.The Shavers Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06711249262590888171noreply@blogger.com